The Golden Jubilee

My home is telling on me. The past few Friday’s have looked similar where all of the empty cups, mugs and coffee paraphernalia congregated to the kitchen island as if to say, “We served her well today.” The empty water bottle resting in the middle of the massive wood table didn’t make it to the ceremony.

A couple of weeks ago my neighbors wife invited me to have coffee with her and another neighbor down the street. I hadn’t formally met the other neighbor, but the two of them have been friends for many years. With a slight hesitation, I went and it felt like an hours worth of them asking all about me. I didn’t share at an intimate level, but politely answered all of their questions and if you’ve read my blog for any length of time, you know I can be a bit much to put it mildly.

Neither woman has spoken to me since.

The scenarios of the mind will begin to swirl and even for myself in past instances I’d begin questioning my behavior during coffee. My daughter would pick on me and say, “You didn’t hide your crazy well enough”, but something shifts in a woman after the age of 55. As we near the age of 60 and beyond, other people’s approval, or opinion of ourselves doesn’t matter. My gosh darling, we’ve been roaming this earth for half a century, so by His grace we must be doing something right!

Trying to find a word, or phrase for half a century, the best I could come up with became the title of this post. The 50th wedding anniversary is called the golden jubilee and sitting here today my life feels pretty damn near golden. Let me encourage you to not allow anyone to steal the golden from your jubilee.


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15 responses to “The Golden Jubilee”

  1. Similar thing happened to me in that, I got to a certain age, and said screw what other people might think. (I was about 50) I love the comment from your daughter. Blessings on you and your day Barb. DM

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    1. Hi DM and yes, turning 50 is when the idea truly takes hold, but it took me a few more years to actually put it in consistent practice. To actually live your life without a thought of what it may look like to others is freeing.

      I’m sorry that happened to you, but I believe you’re good people. My daughter knows me better than I know myself and she’ll tell it like it is. Lol The disconcerting part is…she’s usually right! Thank you and blessings to you as well!

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  2. Thank you, Barb. Very recently in fact just yesterday I managed to alienate a friend of mine I’ve had in this tiny town for many many years. She has ghosted me for having an opinion and so has another woman. It seems I have only one friend in this town. But all I did was offer my opinion. I know someday I will find my tribe. But right now not so much. At least it’s good to know. I’m in good company!

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    1. Hey Patty! It’s so good to see you and I’m happy this resonated with you. I only have a handful of people I offer my opinion to and that’s only if they ask for it. I’m one of those diehard friends who will say what you need to hear, but not necessarily what you want to hear. No coddling and that’s the kind of people who thrive in my life. The ones who aren’t afraid to tell me what they see, but they aren’t a tribe. More like a small gang. 😂

      I live in a small town too and word travels fast, but I’m okay being called the ‘odd’ one. I’m also finding freedom in it’s okay not to be liked. Do we really want everyone to like us? That would be exhausting.

      You’re a beautiful soul and I’m honored to call you my friend. 💖

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  3. I find this very similar to my life, Barb. My neighbors don’t seem to want much to do with me, perhaps it’s because I live by myself and have no family here. Nobody ever visits! I am an introvert by nature and always have been. But that’s okay, I don’t mind after three divorces. Peace and quiet are more important. I’m always nice to the neighbors though…

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    1. Hey John. I get it and something else I thought of is the age difference between my neighbors and myself. They have children and I’m passed that stage, so I’m sure they are busy, but I wouldn’t trade my life for theirs. Silence is golden.

      That’s interesting that no one ever visits, because it’s the same here! A couple stopped by on Mother’s Day and they are one of the very few people who have ever stepped inside my home. Their little girl brought me flowers, but it was so weird seeing them inside my home! Maybe we need to invite people over John, but it’s so hard to let them into our personal space. Kindness always my friend.

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      1. I call you a friend! I have no family in Nevada, they are all back east in Michigan, and one niece in Norcal. Being so introverted means I really prefer my own company. You are not alone, Barb. I’m flying home to Michigan in late June for a few days to spend time with everyone, we also meet up every December for our family Christmas. I just feel bad about being far away since my dad is 95 years young. ❤️🙏🏻

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      2. I am honored John. Thank you, friend! 💖

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      3. You are welcome, Barb. ☺️

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  4. This read could not be better times for ma. Thank you. ❤️❤️❤️

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    1. While I meant “me,” the “ma” there does make me smile. :)

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      1. Since it brings a smile I will leave it be. 😊

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    2. Ahhhh….Deborah. Gotta love that divine timing. So good to see you here. Did you start a new blog and how do I re-follow you? Nevermind, you just magically appeared in my Reader. WooHoo! 💖

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  5. You think you don’t care what people think in you fifties, wait until you reach your seventies! Yikes! Keep being you Barb.

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    1. I’m looking forward to it, Gary! Thank you and you know I will. 💜

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