Spark the Spirit of Christmas-While Living Solo

This is a difficult season for many and it’s been a struggle for me most of my life, but it seems I’ve gone back to my roots. Every Christmas, Mama moved a piece of furniture out of our den to make space for the tree and one of my older brothers was nominated to climb into the attic to retrieve the 6 ft. cardboard box where the tree was stored until ready to use. This was one of the few times I remember seeing Mama happy. She was humming Christmas carols while preparing the tree, one methodical moment at a time.

This month hasn’t been a struggle and mainly because I haven’t let it. I’ve dropped everything I could to settle into this magical month and actually enjoy it. Over the weekend I caught myself moving the den around to make room for the tree, just like Mama, but this house doesn’t have storage space, so I went and bought a real tree.

Here are some things that helped spark the spirit of Christmas, while living solo.

  1. My favored radio station, KLove, started playing Christmas music the weekend after Thanksgiving and hearing those classic songs in late November softened my heart for December. I downloaded the KLove app to play Christmas music every day and I started feeling a spark of Christmas.
  2. A local church was selling Christmas tree to raise money for missions, so I strolled through their tree selection. The person who helped me was extremely knowledgeable about the trees and I learned more about them that day that I ever imagined. I chose a 5 ft. tree instead of a taller one, so it would be manageable.
  3. I gave myself plenty of time with the tree. Once it was in the stand and watered, I added a light dusting of flocking to it and let it sit overnight to dry. The next day, I emptied the water from the stand and hauled it inside to place it in the corner of the den. The hardest parts were done and now the fun part began.
  4. Last years lights were too numerous for a tree of smaller size, but instead of trying to get them all on and perfectly placed, I followed my heart and let the excess drop to the floor along with all my expectations of a perfect tree.

5. Christmas cards-I purchased 2 boxes, one for far away friends/family and another to give my neighbors. Instead of writing and addressing them all in one sitting, I wrote a few each evening and got them ready for the mailbox the next morning.

6. The tree can look lonely without any presents underneath, so I decided to change that. I thought of a few things I wanted this year, but didn’t need and ordered them. Once they arrive, I don’t open them, but wrap them and place them under the tree. If you’re anything like me, I’ll forget what I ordered by Christmas.

7. Light-I had purchased some outdoor solar lights for the backyard, but taking them out of the box, they reminded me of Christmas, so I strung them across the front of the house. They came with no instructions and I forgot to turn the solar panel on to charge, so no light that night, but just like with all these tiny acts, I can be patient.

I hung the gold star from this previous post and last years Christmas wreath is on the door. While washing dishes I hear Christmas music and find myself singing along. Being single doesn’t mean we muddle though December because each of the things listed were once very special to me. I pray you hear the whisper of your childlike heart to help spark the spirit of Christmas this year.


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14 responses to “Spark the Spirit of Christmas-While Living Solo”

  1. Good ideas, Barb. As someone who lives alone, I manage to do some of those things. I still find the holidays to be difficult even with family nearby. Too many memories.

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    1. Hi Becky and thank you for sharing. I’m happy to hear you do some of these and yes…you’re not alone in the struggle. I pray that the memories will soften each year and make some space in your heart for new ones. 💖

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      1. Many of the memories aren’t dreadful but just make me sad. It’s a challenge, that’s for sure.

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      2. I apologize, Becky, for a misuse of wording, but I removed it from my previous comment. Ahhhh…..I may have to elaborate on this in another post, because those sweet memories make this time of year hard pill to swallow. 💖

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      3. Sometimes, but it’s all part of life, I suppose!

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  2. Im glad you are having a nice Christmas season, Barbara. 🎁🎄

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    1. Hey Anne and thank you, lovely. ✨💖

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  3. As you know no muddling here! Alice and I are glowing with the spirit of Christmas! Glad you are too, Barb✨❤️🎄

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    1. I don’t see you muddling through anything, Dwight! Thank you and continue spreading your light. 💖🎄

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  4. Barb

    Thank you for this post. Yes there are many of us that spend either the holidays alone or missing those that are dear to us or missing the past .

    This year has been particularly difficult.  I lost my best friend Dianne who live next-door. I took her to her cancer appointments. Even though she was dying of cancer she had the most wicked sense of humor and we found ourselves laughing like crazy in the waiting room at the clinic . I miss her wit and charm and her incredible sense of humor. Six weeks after her death I lost one of my dearest and oldest friends from back home to suicide. He was a vital and creative fun person and we are all left wondering what happened. A month ago my dog’s littermate Geronimo, a dog that I had known for 11 years and saw every day, was hit by a car. We are still reeling from the loss of that gentle soul.

    But I am making myself put up my tree TODAY! I put all kinds of Christmas music and videos on thanks to YouTube. So there’s plenty of cheerful fireplaces and Christmas trees on the television and lovely music. I have plenty of invites for the holidays so I can make my choice of what I would like to do.

    Even through our grief and pain we have to move forward and make joy happen. Sometimes it has to be a very conscious effort. Like taking a handful of glitter and throwing it all around us. Then we have 1 million points of light and sparkle to remind us of what joy is and to remind us of the kindness of these holidays.

    Patty

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    1. Hello lovely one! Your friend, Diane, sounds like my Chemo buddy. The nurse sat me in a chair beside her one day and we laughed our way through the treatments together. You’ve had a lot of grievances happen at once and I pray that you’ll cling to the good memories and feel peace.

      You are right, when we live alone these little acts that used to be on automatic take more of an effort, but they are so worth the effort! I’m happy you have numerous invites and that shows how well you’re loved. You just reminded me to sprinkle the front porch with glitter! Much love to you my darling. 💖🎄

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  5. ⭐️❤️ Your creative spirit and resilience are an inspiration. You shine bright throughout the year!

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    1. Awww…..you’re the sweetest. Thank you, lovely and enjoy your time in December. You are the Queen of Resilience. 💖✨

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