An Unsupervised Life

My daughter secretly worries a little bit about my living alone and she has good reason. Recently, she sent me a TikTok and said, “I’m crying because this is you!” It was a young woman my daughters age talking about her Mom getting banned from the app Next-door for being a little too honest.

My daughter knows I banned myself from the app Next-door because it was too tempting to say what I really wanted to say instead of what’s acceptable in today’s world, so I had to stop going there for everyone’s safety. One of my top goals in life is to never have to call my daughter to bail me out of jail especially over an app. Offending someone in Target over the last Magnolia wreath might be a different story, but you choose your battles carefully while living an unsupervised life.

When you’re single with an empty nest, the freedom of an unsupervised life can be a hindrance. Over time we can slip off track and forget it’s easy to forget our purpose, or what we’re called to accomplish in a day. There’s a handful of people who hold me personally accountable each day and my work requires a daily check-in of tasks complete, so there’s structure in my life, but no hard rules. It’s not easy being held accountable, but it helps me focus on what’s meaningful.

I know God is watching every minute, but having actual people who care enough to hold you accountable to fulfilling your purpose is golden. I take the weekends off from accountability to let my body relax and my mind wander. The soul needs a couple of days to believe it’s possible to know how to live an unsupervised life.

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8 responses to “An Unsupervised Life”

  1. Oh you made me laugh on this one, Barb. I too had to self police and remove Nextdoor from my devices. The threat of my inside voice penetrating out into my hood was too much. The power of checking in with loving souls is priceless. May the force be with you on Sundays.😀

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    1. Hahaha…I hear you Dwight and am happy this resonated with you. When the term ‘authentic self’ came to light I see it as a service to others keeping my authentic self in check. I think my daughter would be proud of how well I’m doing and there’s been no phone call from jail. It’s nice to know after the age of 55, that we have that side of us that can be unleashed with a moment’s notice, but it’s best for everyone involved to keep it reeled in. Thank you! 😂

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  2. I LOVE this post, Barb! I’m not even sure what the Nextdoor app is! 😂 Like Dwight you cracked me up!
    We had a basement guy take thousands of dollars from us and not finish the work. Saw him when I walked into Dunkin enjoying a cup of coffee. I’ll have to tell ya about that story. He called the cops on me. 😂😂😂

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    1. Thank you Jackie and you’d be banned from the next-door app in less than a week. 😂 Oh, dear Lord!! I can’t wait to hear more about it! 😂

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  3. I love it Barb, and I love that you put it in audio at the bottom. That is so special! Just like you. 🤗

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    1. Awww…..thanks Anne. You’re the sweetest. 💖

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  4. My daughter loves that I’m in this group. She knows I thrive on being goal oriented, but it’s hard to stay focused alone. I knew one of the members pretty well and tracked him down to ask if I could join. Since you used to be in one you know how life changing accountability can be, so maybe you could start one. Congratulations on your canning workshop! Maybe there will be a few souls attending that who would be interested in forming a group? They’re there to learn and that’s a really good start. Thank you, DM.

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  5. Fun post! I just signed up for Next-door, so I totally understand it.

    Blessings!

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